Surviving the "Stone Throwers"

There I was, in full uniform feeling good about the last play that I just finished, and BAM! Out of thin air, I was leveled by a very large lineman from the other team. Isn't it funny how we can remember the weirdest things? I do remember that day in High school playing football. The guy was huge and he hit me very hard! I think I am still seeing stars. :) Unfortunately there are things in our life that leave much bigger reminders, wounds and scars aren't there? Sometimes there are stones thrown at us in our life that are thrown right at our heart. It can seem like an impossible thing to heal from cant it? It has been said, “The one who throws the stone forgets; the one who is hit remembers forever.”  I am learning thru CR that some things we will never forget, but that I CAN heal from them. CR taught me that the stone throwers from my past have their own baggage and that my holding onto the pain and stuffing it only hurts me. It does nothing to hurt the stone "thrower". Today, I am praising God that I am struggling well from past stones that have hit me. I can think of those who threw some big stones at me and not feel my blood pressure rise. Will I ever forget? Of course not. But can I forgive and move on? Only with help from Christ and some incredible friends around me. There is hope to heal from those wounds. Because He has helped me with yesterday's stone wounds and stone throwers, I can be confident that He will help me with today's as well as tomorrows. One day at a time. “May the God of hope fill you with all joy and peace as you trust in him, so that you may overflow with hope by the power of the Holy Spirit.." Have a great day! Rodney Holmstrom

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