Top Priorities

Here are five simple suggestions to help make loving your spouse a top priority, second only to your relationship with Christ. Remember, giving your marriage the time and attention it deserves truly matters to God. He will help you implement these steps if you are willing to order your life and marriage according to His will.

1. Pray together before the day begins.
Couples that pray regularly together experience less than a 1 percent divorce rate.

2. Act out love to experience feelings of love.
One of the mysteries of keeping a softened heart is that we must continue to ACT that way even when we don't feel that way.

3. Spend thirty minutes a day in a shared activity and intimate conversation.
It's a truism that men communicate as the result of a shared activity, while women view communication as the activity itself. Make spending thirty minutes together a top priority so that you can stay connected through intimate conversation.

4. Give your spouse the right to access you any time day or night.
One of the important ways to communicate the priority your spouse is in your life is to allow them to interrupt your schedule. The important point needs to be established that your spouse comes first.

5. Submit your time decisions to the fifty-year rule.
The fifty-year rule simply asks, "Fifty years from now will we be glad or regret the way we used our time today?"
We need to take this advice of Scripture to heart,
Teach us to number our days aright, that we may gain a heart of wisdom.
(Psalm 90:12)
Our marriages all come with an expiration date. We may have only this day to connect our hearts; tomorrow may not come. We need to ask God to give us the wisdom to see our marriage as He sees our marriage. Once we do, we will make it the first and highest priority in our lives after our relationship with Christ.
"Today, if you hear his voice, do not harden your hearts..."

Marriage Minutes
Bob and Cheryl Moeller
Thursday, September 23, 2010
email: cherylmoeller@comcast.net to subscribe

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